Why Are So Many Women
Being Killed By The Man They Love?
It seems like everytime you turn
on the news, you hear that another woman was killed by her boyfriend or
husband. Some of these women recently left the abusive man, and somehow he finds
and kills her anyways. There are so many men that are possessive and abusive.
Numerous women find themselves living an exhausting life of being abused by the
man they love. How does this happen? At what point does a woman completely
submit herself to a man? Let’s think about the moment she meets him. Their eyes
meet, then, she smiles, he smiles, and the dating begins. They take a drive, go
to dinner, or the movies. Holding hands and kissing feels so right with this
person. Before you know it, the lovemaking begins. You feel so amazing with
this man. He does everything just right. You feel special and loved. Then, the
moment comes, the moment that he does or says something that makes you fearful.
You’re shocked and saddened. Now, this is the exact moment that you should run,
not walk, away from this person. Cut all ties with him, immediately. As
difficult as it may sound, this is for the best. Do it before you get any
deeper into the relationship. If you don’t, this will only be the beginning of
a hurtful and dangerous life filled with fear and abuse. “But, I love him,” is
what many say. You need to love yourself more. If you stay, you will endure a
lifetime of abuse, even if you do decide to leave him one day, it may be too
late. Like many of the women on the news. They waited so many years to finally
leave an abusive relationship, only to be killed by the man they once loved.
Don’t you see, you have to leave right away, at the first sign of abuse or he
will control you for the rest of your life. The longer you wait, the more
danger you’re in. If this lifestyle doesn’t kill you, it will certainly age you
fast. All of your own hopes and dreams you once had will go out the window.
This type of man is disrespectful and says things to you that will degrade you
and make you feel like you are so unworthy. Why would you stay with a man like
that? Somebody who abuses you is a big coward. A man that truly loves you, will
never hurt you or wish you harm. Usually this type of man is lacking something
that makes him feel like less of a man and treats his woman like this to feel
macho. Or, he’s continuously cheating and treats his wife this way because of
his own guilt. Women, you should be fearless from the very beginning. Love
yourself so much that you would never allow a man to disrespect or control you.
You must not only have a strong voice, but you need to use it. If you’re not
used to speaking up for yourself, your voice may shake at first, but trust me,
you will get used to it and get better at it. Stand up for yourself. Don’t let
him get away with being mean to you. Speak your mind at all times. A man won’t
respect you, until you respect yourself. Remember, if you allow a man to be
abusive to you, it will only get worse as the years pass. Keep in mind, abuse
isn’t just physical, it’s mental as well. Mental abuse may be worse than
physical in many cases. When you are controlled simply by his presence, yes,
that’s mental abuse. If you’re a woman in this type of relationship, how long
should you live this way? Until you’re thirty? Forty? Fifty? Or, are you going
to wake up one day when you’re elderly, filled with regrets. Regretting that
you never truly lived because you were always under the control of a man. I
always say this; If you can wake up everyday and be exactly who you want to be,
then you’re living a good life. If you feel threatened and afraid of the man
that you’re with and want to talk to someone or get out of the relationship,
there is tremendous help out there. The National Domestic Hotline is available
24/7 and can be reached at 1-800-799-7233. In Fort Bend County, you may call
281-342-4357. It doesn’t hurt to call and talk to somebody. They are there to
help and protect you. Don’t become another woman that was killed by the man she
loved.
Author, Writer, Journalist,
Advocate & Motivational Speaker, Sandra Moreno
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